I was asked this question this past week as part of a training session we were in.
The Instructor, from Winnipeg, asked how many people in the group of 8 had experienced -40 degrees.
The Instructor asked her to describe -40.
I can’t remember the exact wording, but the class participant’s description was graphic and good…but I still didn’t feel the -40. The Instructor recalled others describing -40 as being in a meat locker or walk-in freezer, but of course that’s not even close to -40…and then there is the wind chill.
For the class, the point was about not understanding business processes unless you experienced them and the best way to actually map a process is to see someone do the work, not just talk about it or read a manual. (that’s the Cole’s notes version…I’ll spare you the details!)
From a personal perspective, I thought the -40 degree question was interesting as well. It is really impossible to tell anyone exactly what the loss of a child feels like. It is really impossible to express in words. Six months later, it remains a balance of amazing positive things that continue to occur and the future looks fantastic with Chris’ SFU fund helping to create positive change…and the deep feeling of loss and longing. That’s the -40 that I can’t help you understand…(and that’s ok btw).
Now, this isn’t meant to be a sad, downtrodden post, but I want to continue to tell the story of this journey to honour our son and to help others as they make their way. And when I say honour, I mean the focus on how Chris lived his life and the people he touched and how that inspires me, Ingrid, Max and I know many of you, to live yours.
As we continue forward, yes, there are some feelings that can’t be translated very well…but the feeling of Be The Best and having Chris’ passion fuel our future aren’t among those. THAT we can feel, express and share.