Be The Best.

The Elephant.

You know that expression, the elephant in the room?

Today is sort of one of those days.

Many people close to us know that today is 3 months since Chris’ passing.

Many have expressed their awareness and support and many have silently acknowledged that they know.

Yes, it is 3 months to the day.  That’s the elephant.  It’s ok to say.

In three short months we’ve (that’s all of us) built a fund at SFU that will live forever in Chris’ name.

In three short months we’ve all aimed to Be The Best! in some personal endevour.

In three short months we’ve all questioned why, but have learned to look forward by proceeding with one decision at a time.

In three short months, the new normal is slowly forming.

In three short months our worlds have changed forever.

In three short months we have identified with William Ernest Henley in his poem, Invictus.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

In three short months, we’ve learned that CHOICE is the secret weapon to our amazing futures!

In three short months, we’ve learned how much we still love Chris and miss Chris and wish he was here.

We know that won’t change, but we’ve learned that we will honour him and his memory forever by our actions, choices and how we treat people.

That’s a lot to learn in three short months.

Be The Best.

Plain and simple.

There is no love like a parent’s love.

Our love for Chris continues every second of every day.

Sometimes we cannot express that as deeply as we feel, but it is there with every heartbeat.

We miss you so much Chris…and when I say ‘we’ I feel you all continuing to stand with us.

One decision at a time…moving towards the new normal, but no one said it was going to be easy.

I know there are many of us who are still working through our feelings about grief and loss especially as they relate to Chris.  If you haven’t already, please find someone you can talk to.  That can be a friend, teacher, parent, coach, relative, etc. etc.

I know after those words saying ‘have a great week’ may sound trite…but I do believe that too.  Let’s have a great week and aim to Be The Best regardless of our pursuits.  For our high school students out there…study hard!

Have a great week.

Be The Best.

Day at a time….OR NOT.

People constantly ask us how we are doing.  If the situation was reversed, we would do the same.  It’s part of being human.  My first answer was, “we’re doing ok…a day at a time”.  I changed that to, “an hour at a time”.  I then came to the realization that neither a week, day, hour or minute at a time was really what was happening.

Time by itself was curing nothing.  It certainly helps to dull the ache maybe a little (or not), but just time by itself was not working.  What is helping,  however, is the amazing power to make decisions.  I’ve changed my answer and so has Ingrid and Max too.  Ask us how we’re doing.  We’ll probably tell you, “We’re moving forward, one DECISION at a time”.  The cool thing about a decision is that you control it.  It is exceptionally empowering.  We’ve made decisions about how we would work as a family unit, how we would help others (via and how we would help each other through the passing of Chris and the unknown that lies ahead.

Thanks for standing with us.  How are we doing?  We’ll get there…one decision at a time!