Be The Best.

Stop and smell the…Tiger Lilies?

I’ve been thinking about the concepts in that ‘mudslide post’ this past week.  With another gigantic slide that occurred on Friday, Aug 6 just north of Whistler, BC, it again makes me think about the concept of what we control and what we don’t.

I think the answer is something like we can’t live like there is a mudslide coming, but we should be prepared if one ever does come.  I’m reminded of the Proverb that states (paraphrased), ‘the lazy dude says there is a lion outside, if I go out there I might get eaten’.  So how does this all relate to Tiger Lilies, roses or other flowers?

We are all familiar with the phrase, take time to stop and smell the roses.  I think that’s where the balance comes in. We (as in Ingrid and I and Max) need to continue to plan, set goals, work hard and think about the future….while not forgetting to stop and smell the flowers.  Stated another way, we cannot ‘stay inside’ (figuratively) just because a lion or mudslide may again cross paths with our lives!

We continue to move forward, stop and smell the flowers and make decisions in the world we can control.  In the world we can’t, we don’t stop moving because of what ‘might be’, but we keep our ’emergency kit’ (relationships, friends, family) in excellent working condition as we continue on life’s journey.

Too deep for Saturday morning?  I’ll go smell some flowers.

Tiger Lilies in Langley garden. Aug 6, 2010.

By Randy Friesen

Randy Friesen is a business strategist, manager and educator based in Vancouver, BC and Detroit, Michigan. He is also a husband and father. He loves the creative process and is active in creating art and music.

2 replies on “Stop and smell the…Tiger Lilies?”

Randy – you don’t know me but I have been following your blog since you started. I am so sorry for your loss. This post really hit me. Sep 12 2000 I lost my husband to an aggressive brain cancer now coming up 10 years!. He was 46, myself 42 and my two boys 13 and 16 at the time our world fell apart. We spent a long time trying to continue as nothing had happened – that was impossible and it took me too many months to realize that we should have been working towards the ‘new normal’ from the beginning. We finally got it together and were able to move forward….there are still days though that I worry too much, decide not to take that extra step, or more often work through the fear that something might occur that will hurt that bad again. Your words this day remind me that we still need to strive to ‘be the best’ and ‘set our goals’ and ‘live life to the fullest’. It is like the song – love like you will never be hurt, dance like no one is watching. Thanks for your sharing your journey – you are reaching others daily.

Hi Karen. Thanks a million for sharing. That ‘new normal’ thing continues to speak to us all the time too. All the very best to you and your family as you continue on your journey! You’re not alone.

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