If you live in the Vancouver area you’ve heard the story of Alexa Middalaer, the 4 year old who died in May 2008 after being struck by a vehicle driven by a driver who had been drinking. Alex and her aunt were feeding a horse at the side of the road. (source: Province Newspaper page A4, Tues, Nov 9, 2010)
This post is not about blame, courts or sentencing issues.
It’s about the parents of Alexa.
You may have seen Laurel, Alexa’s Mom, and Michael, Alexa’s Dad in the media over the past two years. They have honoured their daughter by giving and creating. If you haven’t been there before, check the family’s website. It’s an amazing tribute and they have given others (like us) an example of how to be proactive.
I’ve wondered a few times how they could be so strong.
Their quotes in the Province today shows that incredible ‘polar balance’ of positive and negative emotion and energy that pumps through your body 24-7 after your lives change forever.
“‘In truth, I stand before you today an inherently broken and gutted soul.” – Alexa’s Dad Michael
“Now we are merely shells of what we were before.” – Alexa’s Mom Laurel
Powerful words from such strong people.
But wait. Laurel also states, “God, do I miss her. But I live each day by choice. I have to.”
I read that sentence and almost dumped my bowl of corn flakes…(and almond milk).
We are living each day by choice too.
The Middelaers for their beautiful Alexa.
The Friesens for their amazing Chris.
And thousands more for their loved ones.
As we head towards Remembrance Day, we stand with all those Canadian families who have lost loved ones in the service of our amazing country or illness or tragedy.
And then we choose to live on in their memories using their passion to fuel us, one day at a time…one decision at a time.